Wednesday, May 07, 2008

No Flat, No Marry


Men who propose to their girlfriends now are getting "No" for an answer as the woman would want to have their own flat to stay in, instead of having to put up with her in-laws. The expensive option of renting a flat to stay in is not quite feasible either. Buying a resale flat would mean forking out at least $15k to $30k cash on valuation (COV) to pay the seller. This is not a workable option either since many if not most courting couples in their early 20s up to their early 30s are usually quite cash-strapped. Not unless they are making big bucks like a combined income of over $10k a month.

For a married insurance manager with 2 kids and a BMW and a $680k 5-room flat in Mei Ling Street, his monthly expenses can easily exceed $10k a month.

Now all the new BTO flats from HDB need at least 3 years to construct. By then the cows would have gone home, and the woman whom the man wants to marry, might have left him for another man who can afford to buy either a resale HDB flat or new condo straight away.

No money, no honey. No flat, no marry.

23 Comments:

Blogger JOEPSC said...

This line of thoughts and actions will mean their parents, the older folks, will have much to think about living through lonely twilight time.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008 at 12:00:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

To joepsc: You're right. More and more old folks are dying alone. Even though such poor and destitute old folks who live alone dread the thought of living and dying alone, they don't have much of a choice, do they? In US, adult children living away from their parents is the norm. In Singapore, it seems to be more and more of the norm.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008 at 3:05:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger HappySurfer said...

It's a vicious cycle. In the name of progress?

Wednesday, May 7, 2008 at 3:45:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

To Happysurfer: You're right. It's a vicious cycle in the name of progress indeed :)

Wednesday, May 7, 2008 at 4:03:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mason said...

Well looks like it going to be hard for me to find a wife that doesn't brag about cars, status, prestige and material.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008 at 4:32:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

To Solid Snake: Singaporean Chinese men who can't get a Singaporean woman as a wife because the latter is too materialistic, are instead getting wives from China, Vietnam, Myanmar, etc. Somehow these women seem to be less materistic than their Singaporean counterparts. I guess they might pretend to be less materialistic in the beginning in order to get married and get a green card to stay in Singapore and be a Singapore Citizen.

Likewise, are Singaporean Malay men getting wives from Malaysia and Indonesia instead?

Thursday, May 8, 2008 at 10:26:00 AM GMT+8  
Blogger Mason said...

Hmm non materialistic girl are depleting. Either they left to other parts of the world, taken or transform into something worst.

It's easy to detect how materialistic they are. All we men have to do is to be their friends for more than 6 months. Slowly they will reveal their true colour.

Thursday, May 8, 2008 at 9:34:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mason said...

But of course we guys too have to be blame. Some of us are chauvinist, lazy, drunkard and more.

Friday, May 9, 2008 at 8:21:00 AM GMT+8  
Blogger JOEPSC said...

Disturbed by the trend of marrying and leaving home.. wrote a poem on it in my blog.

Friday, May 9, 2008 at 5:08:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger INVS 2.0 said...

>> To Liu Huang Di: Actually, my car does have solar films on all four windows and the front windscreen. Somehow that doesn't really prevent the cashcard from "melting" inside the car's greenhouse. Even the cashcard reader cover does not deter muggers from smashing a windscreen and stealing the cashcard which might not even be in the IU :p

--> Because your Hyundai Getz is coloured in black. Black absorbs more heat than silver or white. The solar films, also known as privacy glasses, can reduce the chance of the mugger spotting the cashcard in the IU.

Friday, May 9, 2008 at 7:13:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger INVS 2.0 said...

I rather to have a car than a wife. A car is less expensive than a materialistic wife and can bring me to anywhere I want to go.

"Horse is ancient men's pride. Car is modern men's dignity". "Wife is both ancient and modern men's burden".

Friday, May 9, 2008 at 7:15:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mason said...

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Friday, May 9, 2008 at 7:29:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mason said...

Yo pal please delete my old blogs. I've decided to abandon it and stick to my current blog for many years.

"Horse is ancient men's pride. Car is modern men's dignity". "Wife is both ancient and modern men's burden".

Excellent sentences from Liu!

"Likewise, are Singaporean Malay men getting wives from Malaysia and Indonesia instead?"
>>> Well I don't know. Most are probably men who spent their CPF saving for 2nd wife, men who's already divoce, can't get local girls due to education or [others] reason?

Friday, May 9, 2008 at 7:37:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger chartao said...

that's why i'm still single!!

Cos i have No money, so no honey. And i have No flat, so no marry.

hahaha...

Saturday, May 10, 2008 at 12:18:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger seefei said...

lucky i got mine eons ago! ooppss that mean i am old lah!!

Saturday, May 10, 2008 at 2:52:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

To Snake: If you get a good degree and a high-paying job eventually together with your girlfriend or wife-to-be, i don't see why you can't get a flat easily :)

Thursday, May 15, 2008 at 2:59:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

To Liu Huang Di: Actually my Getz is not black. It's lilac blue. i think even the interior of a white car can turn hot like a burning furnace after it's been parked under the hot blazing sun in Singapore for at least one hour and onwards. No solar film is capable of keeping the interior of a car parked under the sun, cool. Even if it's totally black until the driver and passengers can't see outside the car, the car would still feel warm on the inside after it's been parked under the sun.

Thursday, May 15, 2008 at 3:03:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

A car is a pure blood-sucker especially if you don't do sales of any kind. A wife would not suck as much of your blood if she's making her own living and contributing to the household expenses as well.

Thursday, May 15, 2008 at 3:04:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mason said...

"A wife would not suck as much of your blood"
Depend on her character, attidue and behaviour. If I'm lucky i get a non blood sucker women if not might as well stay single. If... Of course it take two hands to clap right?

High paying job but challenging will be better than just sitting down in the office 8-5 daily.

Thursday, May 15, 2008 at 5:36:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

if you want a strictly 8 to 5 job daily, you would get a better chance trying for a civil service job. In the private sector, working overtime is more of a norm rather than an anomaly.

Thursday, May 22, 2008 at 3:56:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Mockingbird said...

Just as there are women who suck their husbands' blood, so are there men who suck their wives' blood. There are vampires among us. Everyone is a blood-sucker at one time or another. The incorrigible ones are those who suck other people's blood all their life.

Thursday, May 22, 2008 at 3:59:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger INVS 2.0 said...

My Hyundai Verna is still cool under the sun for more than two hours.

Friday, May 23, 2008 at 5:43:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger INVS 2.0 said...

Girls of my generation are degrading. You are lucky to have married to a good wife.

I have seen too much bad women. Car is much better; it won't nag me or bully me.

Friday, May 23, 2008 at 5:46:00 PM GMT+8  

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